The Only Gate is Now (Mary Bast)
"The only gate is now. The only doorway is your own body and mind. There’s nowhere to go. There’s nothing else to be." Poet Jane Hirshfield in The Buddha, a film by David Grubin
Sunday, October 8, 2023
I am Thou
Thursday, April 6, 2023
The True Picture of Reality?
Thursday, August 18, 2022
The Tibetans Call It a Bardo
We were also told we'd have an experience of extrasensory perception on the last day of the training, which I found intriguing but presumed impossible for me. For that last session we were instructed to bring in three slips of paper, each showing only the name and city of an individual we privately knew to have an illness or physical problem.
To start the morning of the last day, we practiced by placing the body of a friend on our mental screen and scanning for problems of any sort. Following instructions, suddenly I saw and heard a motorcycle hit by a car. The motorcyclist's face wasn't visible, but because the man I was scanning owned a motorcycle, I expressed my alarm to the instructor, who suggested I find the date of the accident and send healing light to my friend.
I closed my eyes, went to "alpha level" as instructed, visualized the calendar in my mental laboratory, and was astonished to see the pages turning rapidly until they stopped at a date in June. I assumed this to be in the future, as the session took place in February, so I did as the instructor suggested and pictured my friend bathed in white light.
After a break we were assigned partners, and the first one, whom I'd never met and didn't know in advance would be my partner, handed me a piece of paper with a man's name and the city of Seattle written on it. In alpha level, I visualized a man on my mental screen, and saw his whole left side was darker than his right. I didn't know what it meant.
Using a technique we'd been taught, I imagined putting on this person's head, and was immediately torn by depression, sorrow, and resentment. I could feel my left side was crippled; I had no hearing in my left ear and no sight in my left eye. I knew hearing was intact in my right ear, but vision in my right eye was limited in some way, though I couldn't describe exactly how.
Afterwards, my partner said this was the son of a dear friend; 21 years old and bitter because he'd been crippled on his left side in a motorcycle accident at an intersection where a car had ignored a stop sign. He had no hearing in his left ear and no sight in his left eye; hearing was normal in his right ear, but he had tunnel vision in his right eye. His recovery was slow, and he was despondent.
As I almost feared when asking her the accident's date, she named the same day in June I'd seen on my mental calendar. The motorcycle crash I'd pictured earlier that morning, before being assigned to this partner, had occurred the previous June!
Interactions with my next two partners were less clear but equally mind-blowing. With one, I pictured her subject with a brain like a walnut, the right side shriveled, then found she'd given me the name of a friend with brain cancer in the right hemisphere. With the other I kept seeing The Cowardly Lion from The Wizard of Oz, focusing especially on the size of his nose. She admitted she didn't know anyone with a critical injury or illness, so had given me the name of a friend with chronic sinusitis.
I was disoriented for several weeks. The world as I perceived it had changed. In The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, Sogyal Rinpoche refers to a bardo as a juncture "when the possibility of liberation, or enlightenment, is heightened." My experience of this unexpected, new reality opened my mind and heart.
Since then, I've had many instances of knowing something that either had not happened yet, or had happened at a distance, without my direct knowledge, and was later confirmed. At first, I was frustrated by the lack of specificity, but over the years I've learned to relax into what I now believe is a universal flow.
As a coach this manifested as psychic intuitions. I learned to slip into a meditative state and seek information beyond the obvious. My clients often commented, "I was just thinking that, but wasn't sure I was ready to talk about it," or "How did you know that? I've never told anyone."
My bardo experience left me with a lifelong sense of awe, triggered by the recognition, "If this is possible, then anything is possible."
Monday, August 1, 2022
Cave Drawings
Research suggests that trauma survivors can head off long-lasting symptoms by letting friends know what they're going through. Susan Lien Whigham, "The Role of Metaphor in Recovery From Trauma"
And the measure of how well or quickly we recover, compared to those who might develop post-traumatic stress disorder, is whether or not we can discharge the energy created by the shock. Some of our response to stress is determined by our own emotional resiliency, but much of it depends on whether our caregivers, family, and friends contribute to our feeling helpless or support our gaining a sense of control. We can begin to take charge of our fate when we're able to talk about our feelings, absorb the reality of our circumstances, and move into action.
My strongest urge while convalescing from surgery was simply to be listened to. And yet, I didn't really have the words to express what I was experiencing. Some of my friends interpreted my early quasi-silence as a desire to have my spirit lifted and entertained me with stories. I loved them for this, but I didn't want to hear stories, I wanted to be invited to express what was going on inside of me, needed them to be patient while I searched to find words for what I was experiencing.
So, I was relieved to read how listening for metaphors can help recovery from trauma. I remembered an earlier blog entry where I had tried to express my reaction to others' view of my "bravery":
It's like driving in a heavy rainstorm late at night. You'd rather be home by a cozy fire, but you're on full alert, every sense attuned to what's happening in your immediate environment. You don't have time to be afraid.
Notice the quality of water in these metaphors -- rainstorm, tide, waves, ocean. And notice also how these water metaphors are hard to pin down (another metaphor); how fruitless it would be to try to capture water with a "pin" of any sort. And yet, these watery images helped me embrace a shock too big to encompass with left-brain language.
Breast cancer brought death into my house. Paradoxically, the mastectomy brought a change to my body that meant I could stave off death, probably for many years, so I denied the surgery as trauma. It took almost six months for me to acknowledge that I saw the loss of my breasts as a disfigurement, to notice how I'd been dressing to hide it from the world, how quickly I covered myself after a shower--when I used to be so happily naked.
I finally let in the loss by following my metaphors, diving in to the ocean, being swept by the tide to a barren shore, finding a flat terrain with strange plants and unknown dangers, dark caves filled with ancient drawings, wondering Who are these others who have been here before me? How can I survive this?
And I knew I had to find my way through this metaphorical territory, go into the dark caves, experience the fear, learn from the ancient drawings, find guidance from others who had been there for a while. The spirits of these women encircled me as I wept for the loss of my breasts, they chanted with me as I celebrated life's changing seasons and embraced more enduring symbols of womanhood.
Seven years later, on April 15, 2017 I faced another loss, the death of my mother. Yes, she lived a long and healthy 104 years, and yes, I was exhausted during the final years of caring for her. But each process of grief has its own territory. As the months passed, I looked at the image above of women in community, and wept as they encircled me once more, reminding me of lifelong love from my Mom, who was also my best girlfriend.
Sunday, July 31, 2022
Awakening Heart Energy
You've had similar experiences, I know. People who take risks to define themselves according to their own needs and dreams often have to overcome the almost insurmountable authority of social conditioning.
Many of us had the childhood experience of being told what we can't do: what's not normal or polite, what's dangerous or beyond our abilities. We were left with a sense of powerlessness to predict what will make us secure. Even as adults, these early messages haunt us: Who will criticize me for trying something new? Who will laugh at me for this idea I have? What will I do if this doesn't work out?
Monday, April 25, 2022
Liebeslied
This practice has taken many turns, one of which was deciding to have a natural burial at Prairie Creek Conservation Cemetery.
Now in my 84th year--though no threat looms with immediacy--it's no longer possible to ignore the eventuality of my own death. And I love the idea of going back to earth in the woods, with a natural marker.
How shall I withhold my soul so thatit does not touch on yours? How shall Iuplift it over you to other things?Ah willingly would I by somelost thing in the dark give it harborin an unfamiliar silent placethat does not vibrate on when your depths vibrate.Yet everything that touches us, you and me,takes us together as a bow's stroke does,that out of two strings draws a single voice.Upon what instrument are we two spanned?And what player has us in his hand?O sweet song.Wie soll ich meine Seele halten, dasssie nicht an deine rührt? Wie soll ich siehinheben über dich zu andern Dingen?Ach gerne möcht ich sie bei irgendetwasVerlorenem im Dunkel unterbringenan einer fremden stillen Stelle, dienicht weiterschwingt, wenn deine Tiefen schwingen.Doch alles, was uns anrührt, dich und mich,nimmt uns zusammen wie ein Bogenstrich,der aus zwei Saiten eine Stimme zieht.Auf welches Instrument sind wir gespannt?Und welcher Spieler hat uns in der Hand?O süsses Lied.
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The Symbol of the Wave
used the metaphor of a wave ~
while each wave appears
separate and distinct
all waves are part
of the ocean they share.
Likewise, there seem to be
nine patterns of personality fixations
yet each is whole in spirituality's ocean.
Wednesday, November 3, 2021
The Ecstatic Skin of the Earth
That's often what it feels like when I commit to greater self-awareness and then see what I've gotten myself into: "Get me out of this!" No matter how innovative my efforts, there's a quality of struggling in, yes, a vat of shit.
In an episode of "John Adams," he teaches one of his sons about the virtues of manure, insisting that the young man mash it around with his hands. Adams' recipe for compost would delight today's organic gardeners -- seaweed, marsh mud, dead ashes, rock weed, livestock waste, kitchen scraps.
My own dung has a similar variety -- scraps of history; ashes I thought were dead; a deep sea of muddy droppings from unconscious creature selves; weeds I'd imagined pulled forever; the waste of years spent serving an ego-image.
I keep in mind this quote from William Bryant Logan's Dirt: The Ecstatic Skin of the Earth: "Not only the grain in the mealbag, but the full-blown rose are, in one sense, the gift of turds."
Wednesday, June 16, 2021
What "The Big Picture" May Miss
The
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, drawn from Jungian psychology, groups people by
cognitive function, and the starkest contrast lies in two broad ways of gathering information: Sensing and Intuition.
Sensors―interested in facts―are good observers, focusing on the present, on facts, on what can be processed through the five senses; concrete, literal thinkers who value realism, common sense, and ideas with practical applications.
Intuitives--interested in frameworks--are introspective, looking for possibilities, patterns, impressions, imagination, reading between the lines. I test as high as possible on Intuition.
Neither is better than the other; however, the stronger the difference in cognitive style, the greater the tendency to disparage such a different way of seeing the world. I grew up in a family where both my parents and my older brother had a Sensing preference, so in spite of my good grades in school and college, I thought I had something missing until I was in graduate school in my thirties, where big picture thinking was a great asset and I learned about these cognitive differences. What a relief!
My deficit in the cognitive pathways of Sensors, however, continues to haunt me, most recently in a poetry workshop where we're learning to model our poems after Sharon Olds, Dorianne Laux, the teacher, and former students--all writing "accessible, detail oriented, image-driven poetry," of course following poetic principles, but focused in tight on a moment that can be visualized. As excited as I've been to be involved again with a critique group, I was really struggling until I found an article about the Sensing/Intuition difference in creative writing.
Writers and
poets tend to be drawn toward creative work that matches their cognitive preferences and, of course, their own writing reflects their way of perceiving
the world.
Sensing Poets: Intuitive Poets:
are detailed, empirical, and concrete are abstract, symbolic, and figurative prefer plot-driven themes prefer concept-driven themes employ similes employ metaphors like to stay on-topic are comfortable with fracture tend to be explicit tend to be implicit tend to be linear and chronological are comfortable with split timelines prefer scenes to summary exposition use scenes as a jumping-off point to explore
larger themes point to what’s present to the eye bring to mind what’s absent from view They
ask: What happened? Were police
cars light or dark blue in Wichita in 1970? Does this stanza progress
logically line-to-line? They may
be wary of speculative leaps and abstractions in a poem. They
ask: What larger question about the human experience does this poem
explore? Which opposing forces create tension? They may look for hidden patterns between the lines
of a poem.
I can't change the wiring of my brain, but I can develop new neural pathways with practice, and because I want so much to learn this way of writing poems, I'm determined to give it my best effort.
Thursday, June 3, 2021
Grace and Grit
Think about it: death, if anything, is the condition of having no future. By living in the present, as if she had no future, she was not ignoring death, she was living it. And I was trying to do the same." Ken Wilber, Grace and Grit.
Tuesday, November 19, 2019
I Know What Endarkenment Is
I don’t know what enlightenment is, but I know what "endarkenment" is… a way to get endarkened really well is to be narrow, to only see things one way (Charles Tart, Enneagram Monthly, March, 1999).
At the first level (of development) people simply realize… how much of the time they spend on automatic pilot.
The second level of insights are… psychodynamic or personality revelations. People begin to see more clearly patterns to their motivations and behavior…
There can arise a clear vision of the dissolution of self from moment to moment, and this often leads to a realm of fear and terror…
Later there arises… a spontaneous process of letting go of personal motivation, and… a vision of the true connection between all of us...
~ Jack Kornfield, "The Seven Factors of Enlightenment", pp. 56-59 in Paths Beyond Ego